A Second Date...Full of Faith

It's Saturday, January 29th. I fell asleep at 4:15am and woke up at 9am. Was it feelings of anxiousness or what? First thought when I actually sat up ------> Isaac. Oddly enough, I received a text from him soon after. Our second date was a gospel concert, he and his band, Battle Cats, would be performing. I actually saw a write up about it earlier in the week (http://mcpo.st/ed13up). His text was to let me know he had to be there for sound check at 3:30pm. Consideration, really? Without a lecture? I think I could get used to this. 

The first part of this nice Saturday is dedicated to my sons. I take them to get their hair cut, go tennis shoe shopping and out to eat. I did start listening to Isaac's alto ego, G. I. Magus. I really liked the intro and having listened to 4 tracks, I decided track 2 was my favorite so far. It quickly closes in on time for the concert to start. When I sent Isaac a text message to let him know I was on the way, he mentioned that his phone's battery was very low but he'd left his charger in his truck. Well being the great girlfriend that I am, I let him know I'd bring mine inside for him to use. When I arrived, his younger brother met me to get the charger. Sweet kid, he even promised not to let anything happen to my charger. 

A couple of performances in, it's time for the Battle Cats. I'm sat back pretty far, so I couldn't make Isaac out by sight but I did hear his voice. It was a song about frustration and patience. I can definitely identify with both. Isaac as the solo artist G.I. Magus is good, but his band Battle Cats is very talented as well. Not long after he got off stage, Isaac sent a text message asking where I was sitting. I left my seat to meet him. I congratulated him on a job well done and he led me back stage. He introduced me to a good friend of his that also came to support him. By the time Canton Jones came on stage, the three of us found a great spot to watch him. Again with the touching and sitting close, I think we actually look good together. 


As I tuned in to Canton, I began to realize what this concert was all about. A young man named Cameron was ill with 2 types of cancer. His grandmother and some local leaders organized the free concert to encourage donations for the family. Cameron was about to undergo surgery. People gave from their hearts into buckets. As if that wasn't inspiring enough, Canton had everyone repeat a prayer after him then had everyone who said the soul redeeming prayer for the first time to come on stage with him. The Holy Spirit was thick in the building and blessings were bestowed right in front of us. THIS was a powerful thing! Something I never expected to share with Isaac. My faith was renewed and my soul smiled. 


When the event was over I watched Isaac sell CDs, met some of his band mates and surprisingly met his mother and sister. O_o It was a bit awkward, but they were welcoming and seemed like nice people. Isaac walked me to my car. I was very appreciative of his invite to share in his talent and restore my commitment in my beliefs. It wasn't just a date, he shared God.

Date to the First Power

By midnight into January 28th, we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend. We stayed on the phone until well after 12am. The conversation was flowing with comfort and a familiarity was created. All of this and we haven't even met yet!! The first date game plan: go to the Stardome Comedy Club for Sommore's 9:45pm performance. But first, pre-gaming: meet at his residence, not far from the location, to spend a little QT. 

Although I was given great directions, Isaac kindly gave some help by guiding me via telephone for the last leg of the distance to his house. When I pull up, he's standing outside of a nice garden home. He points for me to park across the street. As I enter, he awaits to close the door behind me. When I turn to lay eyes on my boyfriend for the first time, his arms are outstretched. I smile :) and give him a hug. What is my first impression of what I saw? Isaac looks different than the pictures I'd seen (and different from the picture I used in the first blog post), he was missing the beard. His slim frame is not the usual for me. Most of the guys I date are thicker and/or muscular. However, his height was spot on. I am ushered through the foyer into a living room with a nice quaint feel. Behind the couch is production equipment, an in-home studio. I guess that is where the magic happens for his music career. After more conversation and even some moments of being silly, I detect a bit of lowkey sexiness. The way he moves his full lips, the way he looks at me and not through me...yeah, what's up with that? 

By the time we make it to the Stardome we are touching, sitting close and calling each other babe. Anyone looking at us interact would have bet money we'd been together for months. Just another content, happy couple. We enjoyed the host comedian, the feature comedian and of course the headliner Sommore. We laughed, ate, drank and had a great time. At the end of the show, my new sweetie holds my purse while I go take a picture with Sommore.

Of course we reviewed the show on the way back to his place, a unanimous 2 thumbs up. Isaac gives me two of his CDs, one of which was his recent release Thermostat.  Once again we hit the midnight hour and I'm admittedly tired with a 40 minute drive ahead of me to get home. That fact didn't stop the laughs from us jonesing on one another, questions, answers, smiles, cracking on each other's music choice as we switch the radio stations and ramble through his CD selection, etc... to the tune of 3 1/2 more hours together sitting in his truck. As I pulled up into my garage, it was 4am and I found myself anticipating the next date. I like this and him already!

Getting to know you...

Although I picked my boyfriend for February earlier this month, we've had limited contact. On January 25th, while confirming our upcoming plans, we started to get to know each other. First via text and then the first phone call. His Obama-ish tone and uber vocab made me think more of a lecture than a casual conversation.  However, as the conversation progresses he seems to feel more comfortable and the inflection of his voice changes to more of an effortless prose. The discussion consisted of personal history, dating preferences, joking and flirting.  

January 27th, First Date Eve

With the awkwardness out of the way, this telephone rap session reveals more about Mr. Jones. His claims of having no "game" ...well it turns out that is his game. I could see right through it but the Einstein of it is that it probably works on quite a few women, trust me. A quiet, modest wrapper for a much more experienced and calculated persona. This is dating evil genius stuff!! Cute, but this will surely hinder the progress of the experiment. With only a month to focus on one another, we have to skip over some of the "representative" and get to the real person. We have to exchange the pleasantries for a more straight, no chaser approach. Just when I thought I had to come up with something creative to break through, it happens. HE'S A LIBRA. 

Wait, what? Isaac is a Libra? Really? Well guess who else is a Libra. Yep, you guessed it. ME!  My nigggggggggggga (in my best Training Day Denzel voice). Ohhhh now it's no holds barred!! I am in very familiar territory. No cutting through a hard outer shell to get to the soft gushy insides, I have your number mister. I am home and connected in this thang now!! The give and take of the getting to know you process just got interesting! I've had a Libra/Libra relationship before. It was one of the best and still comes up in conversations with my closest friends. If you want or need reciprocity from your mate, pick a Libra. We'll give you what you give us and two Libras together tend to be the most balanced givers. How do you let that go because the relationship is supposed to have an expiration date? How will I let go of that kind of connection to start over with a new boyfriend?

Let's get it started!!!!

In my time as an adult I’ve been married twice, had a few exclusive boyfriends and an open relationship with who I thought was the love of my life for about 9 years off and on.  With this new year ringing in and my looking towards settling down, I started reflecting on ways to find that “right fit”. 

I’ve been on blind dates and done internet dating.  Some months ago @purplepeace79 (http://knobslobbingfeminism.com) started a discussion on Twitter around the concept of having a different boyfriend every month.  I remembered thinking I could do that.  I even thought of the experience as being something akin to Charlize Theron and Keanu Reeves in Sweetest November.



Today I decided I wanted to have that experience and I want to start next month (February, the month of love, how ironic right?).  I used Twitter as my platform and I put out there what I wanted to do and accepted “applications” in my DM.  Some of the applicants didn’t really look promising.  I got apps from guys I know have wanted the opportunity to have sex with me and others that I don’t feel would be a good fit.  This isn’t just an experiment……it’s an experiment in love.  One of the biggest goals is to have candidates that I could actually be in a relationship with.  It would also be a goal that the applicant be someone I would actually be getting to know. No ex-boyfriends or even male friends that I’m familiar with.  

Rules.  What are the rules?  We’ve kind of established what type of applicants I’m looking for to participate, but now what are the rules of engagement?  I’m basically flying by the seat of my pants here.  I foresee that as the experience takes on a life, it will bring about more boundaries.  One steadfast rule is there will actually have to be dates.  Social interaction is a must.  The objective is not to break the participant or only attend expensive events.  Instead the purpose will be to have social interactions based on the participant’s budget and means.  If he is my boyfriend, we can only do what our resources would allow.  To bring balance and realism, there will be time spent just chilling and being homebodies as well.  Keep in mind, this is to mirror a full on relationship. 

Something that many want to know……will there be sex?  One thing about it, if there is……..it will be blogged!   ; )

The title “My BOYFRIEND….this month” reveals the intention of having a different boyfriend each month.  A boyfriend contract where the contract is up at the end of that month and a new boyfriend is introduced for the next month.  The question is: Will I meet someone that I can see myself with long term and therefore want to renew their contract?  Take this journey with me and see.  At the end, I think I will have learned a lot about myself as well as others.

My February Boyfriend is Isaac Jones (aka @Gimagus).

Isaac is 29 and in the music industry (http://www.gimagus.com).  With February being a short month, he and I have agreed to start the boyfriend contract on January 28^th.  We already have our first two dates planned.  Although we have exchanged some basic information to give the month a direction, we will not start to really get to know each other until January 28^th.  When I asked him why he agreed to participate in this social experiment of the heart, he answered why not!!  My kind of guy already.