In my time as an adult I’ve been married twice, had a few exclusive boyfriends and an open relationship with who I thought was the love of my life for about 9 years off and on. With this new year ringing in and my looking towards settling down, I started reflecting on ways to find that “right fit”.
I’ve been on blind dates and done internet dating. Some months ago @purplepeace79 (http://knobslobbingfeminism.com) started a discussion on Twitter around the concept of having a different boyfriend every month. I remembered thinking I could do that. I even thought of the experience as being something akin to Charlize Theron and Keanu Reeves in Sweetest November.
Today I decided I wanted to have that experience and I want to start next month (February, the month of love, how ironic right?). I used Twitter as my platform and I put out there what I wanted to do and accepted “applications” in my DM. Some of the applicants didn’t really look promising. I got apps from guys I know have wanted the opportunity to have sex with me and others that I don’t feel would be a good fit. This isn’t just an experiment……it’s an experiment in love. One of the biggest goals is to have candidates that I could actually be in a relationship with. It would also be a goal that the applicant be someone I would actually be getting to know. No ex-boyfriends or even male friends that I’m familiar with.
Rules. What are the rules? We’ve kind of established what type of applicants I’m looking for to participate, but now what are the rules of engagement? I’m basically flying by the seat of my pants here. I foresee that as the experience takes on a life, it will bring about more boundaries. One steadfast rule is there will actually have to be dates. Social interaction is a must. The objective is not to break the participant or only attend expensive events. Instead the purpose will be to have social interactions based on the participant’s budget and means. If he is my boyfriend, we can only do what our resources would allow. To bring balance and realism, there will be time spent just chilling and being homebodies as well. Keep in mind, this is to mirror a full on relationship.
Something that many want to know……will there be sex? One thing about it, if there is……..it will be blogged! ; )
The title “My BOYFRIEND….this month” reveals the intention of having a different boyfriend each month. A boyfriend contract where the contract is up at the end of that month and a new boyfriend is introduced for the next month. The question is: Will I meet someone that I can see myself with long term and therefore want to renew their contract? Take this journey with me and see. At the end, I think I will have learned a lot about myself as well as others.
My February Boyfriend is Isaac Jones (aka @Gimagus).
Isaac is 29 and in the music industry (http://www.gimagus.com). With February being a short month, he and I have agreed to start the boyfriend contract on January 28th. We already have our first two dates planned. Although we have exchanged some basic information to give the month a direction, we will not start to really get to know each other until January 28th. When I asked him why he agreed to participate in this social experiment of the heart, he answered why not!! My kind of guy already.
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